Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Somebodies lying

The firm I have my retirements funds with keeps sending me encouraging e-mails and reports that tell me the economy is improving and its stronger than the public believes and I should be confident and optimistic about my financial future.  That sounds nice but every time I check my holdings I have less than I did the day before.  In the last month the value of my investments have decreased a thousand dollars (actually a little more than that) and the last several day has shown decreased of over $80.00 per day. 
  So if the economy is doing good then why are my investments doing bad?  Is some one lying to me? 

Sunday, September 28, 2014

Vote no instead

I know the election is still a ways off but listening to the negative campaign aids from Thom Tillis
and Kat Hagan got me to thinking about how we are given choices on the ballet.  I believe there should be one more choice given. 
   At present we can vote for no one or we can no vote for anyone but we are not allowed to vote against a particular candidate.  I think we should be allowed that option.  That way an against vote would cancel out a for vote.  A non vote to me just isn't fair because it is just that: a non-vote.  One might as well not even care but you do care.  Maybe you believe that neither  candidate is the correct one for the office.  If you can't vote against someone then those voting for hold all the power and that isn't a true democracy.  The law is supposed to allow for one person-one vote but to not vote takes away from your authority as a voter. 
   I was faced with that dilemma one election when I liked neither candidate so I had to not vote for either.  That isn't fair.  If I believe neither candidate is good then I should have the right to say so.  A vote against counts just as much as a vote for.  If both candidates receive more votes against than votes for then the parties would have to choose  another candidate.  Maybe it would make our politicians more responsible:  they not only have to prove their opponent isn't as qualified as they are but also have to prove they are worthy. 

Saturday, September 27, 2014

For Sale, Chairs and podium

Actually, one can have the podium.  It has a table attached and makes a great pulpit.  The big item we have is some chairs.  These chairs were made by chairs for less and retail for $38.00 each.  They are the beige fabric with the diamond pattern and they are only a tad over a year old.  We now have a new sanctuary and use a red chair and we are planning on using the old sanctuary for a fellowship hall and Sunday School bldg.  The chairs take up just a little too much room.  They are comfortable with 4' cushions.  We are asking $25.00 each and there are 40 chairs. 
  To see what they look like check out the church chairs on church chairs for less .com.   

Friday, September 26, 2014

If you obey all the rules you miss all the fun

Kathryn Hepburn gets credit for the headline.  Jesus gets credit for saying " he who saves his own life shall lose it but he who loses his life shall save it.  Pretty much the opposite of Kathryn Hepburn's philosophy except that one can still follow Jesus and have fun.  Jesus said we could have life and have it more abundantly. 
  I choose to believe Jesus.  

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Amens don't change the truth

Just because a person is a church goer doesn't mean they go for the right reasons which, yes folks, make them a hypocrite.  But that doesn't bother me so much as for me to quit going to church anymore than it would to go to work with someone who doesn't like our employer.  Hypocrites are all over the place.  Even some people who call themselves Americans have allegiances that lie elsewhere.   We can't not do what we believe is right just because someone else who is doing the same things we are just don't agree.  The people who uses hypocrites as an excuse not to go to church are just making an excuse  and while holding themselves out to be just a little better than a hypocrite are, in fact, probable not as good.  One is a subtle liar and the other is more bold-faced about it but it really doesn't matter as a lie is a lie. 
    People are people whether in church or at work.  Sometimes people have bad habits and at a meeting the boss wants to try and correct bad habits without calling names and embarrassing people  by describing the bad behavior and asking that people not act that way.  It seems like the worst offenders are the loudest defenders of the request.  In other words they are yelling amen when they should be groaning o-me. 
    Agreeing loudly doesn't change the truth about your past behavior nor does it convince anyone that they are wrong about you.  It just makes you look more foolish than you did before. 

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

How to discipline children

I adopted my son when he was 2 years old.  When he was six I took care of a newborn whose mother was a prostitute and whose father was the husband of her grandmother.  I then became a foster parent and had several teenagers to care for.  Then my sister-in-law moved in with my wife and I and she had two sons, both preschoolers and then she gave birth to a girl. 
   My wife wasn't enthusiastic about being a foster parent and she was too involved in her own social life to care much for any of the kids, sad to say, so most of the child rearing duties fell to me.  It wasn't always easy but I learned as I went.  I was a young military man fresh from one war and ready to do it again when I adopted my son.  He was a little bitty fellow and I enjoyed him immensely.  But the was a tenderhearted boy and if it didn't come easy for him he just didn't try.  For me that was frustrating.  I am the type of person that keeps at something until I have mastered it or accomplished my task or goal  so it was a little frustrating with him.  He was a good kid most of the time and he always showed himself to be a man of his word so there really wasn't any need to use corporal punishment with him.  I believe I did a few times but I believe those times were more my shortcomings than his. 
    The last little girls I raised was a pure pleasure.  She was cute, mature, sweet, and knew what she liked and wanted.  Of all the children I helped raise she was the one that brought me the greatest joy.  Only once did I ever see the child upset.  She had a dress that came in two pieces:  one piece was a solid white dress that was really frilly and the other piece was sheer and had strawberries drawn on it and was to be worn over the dress.  One day she had gotten dressed for church and had decided she wanted to wear that outfit.  Her grandmother put the white dress on her put didn't want to bother with the other part.  The child wasn't happy and she became upset.  Her grandmother started yelling at her and at one point even pulled back her open hand as if to strike the child. 
   I heard the commotion and asked what was the matter.  "I explained to her grandmother that the dress was in two parts and while it could be wore separately, the child felt naked without the dress being complete.  She understood and dressed her properly. 
   I wish I had known how to do with my son what I learned by the time I raised my last child.  I learned that each child is different so rules and discipline and play time and all the activities that make up a family have to be different for each child.  A parent cannot be a child's friend yet it isn't necessary to be the power broker either.  I learned to respect each child for the unique person they were and deal with them from a point of respect for their feelings and their needs.  A child looks to a grownup for love, support and guidance and needs our validation.  They don't need our harsh words, orders, or impatient demands. 
   Corporal punishment does have its place.  I remember once on a family and friend outing there were several of us playing horseshoes and one boy would wait until someone was ready to toss their shoes to run out in front of them.  He thought it funny to disrupt our game.  I cautioned the lad three times about the danger and rudeness of his actions but that only seemed to make him more determined.  In my last caution to the kid I also included the punishment  for not heeding my request.  When I swatted his butt he had a shocked look on his face as he had always been allowed to do what he wanted to do, even making fun of his parents, with never a correction.  The swat was never intended to hurt but to enforce the seriousness of the situation.  Being struck by a thrown horseshoe would have been at the very least painful and it would have been irresponsible of us adults not to take proper steps to prevent injury to the boy. 
   Corporal punishment must be a tool in successful parenting but one that should be used sparingly if ever.  Your main tool should be respect for the child and his opinions, viewing the world through the child's eyes,   and recognizing the uniqueness of each individual and dealing with the situation in a rmanner that is best for that particular child.

Thursday, September 11, 2014

Granny Smith is blooming

   I was a little concerned when I found my Granny Smith blooming so I did some research and found it was due to the dry summer with a cool spell followed by a warm wet spell.  It makes a tree think spring is here.   I am concerned because my Granny Smith is the pollinator for my Fuji trees.  My crabapple died and my replacement tree hasn't arrived yet (in the spring). 
  

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

I wish this were true



I just received the following e-mail.  I wish there were a kind lady out there willing to donate to the church rather than some evil person trying to take advantage of some poor greedy soul.




I am Mrs. Nicole Maoris , I am a dying woman who have decided to donate what I have to you/churches/ motherless babies/less privileged/widows’ was diagnosed for cancer for about 2 years ago. I have been touched by god to donate from what I have inherited from my late husband to you for good work of god. I have asked god to forgive me and believe he has because he is a merciful god I will be going in for an operation soon.

I decided to will/donate the sum of $ 2.5 million dollars to you for the good work of god, and also to help the motherless and less privilege and also forth assistance of the widows. At the moment I cannot take any telephone calls right now due to the fact that my relatives (that have squandered the funds I gave them for this purpose before) are around me and my health status also. I have adjusted my will and my lawyer is aware.

I wish you all the best and May the good God bless you abundantly, and please use the funds judiciously and always extend the good work to others. As soon you get back to me, I shall give you info on what I need from you then you will contact the bank and tell them I have willed those properties to you by quoting my personal file routing and account information. And I have also notified the bank that I am willing that properties to you for a good, effective and prudent work. I know I don't know you but I have been directed to do this by god.
  
Yours faithful friend.
Mrs. Nicole Maoris.

5 signs it’s time to look for a new job

This is from an article on Yahoo

1.  Boredom
2.  Bad relationship with the boss
3.  Company struggling
4.  company giving you hints
5.  great Job Offer

  The longest I ever worked at one job was 5 years and the longest I ever stayed at one company was 10.  I did get bored easily.

    For the most part I've always had the respect of my bosses; even the ones that didn't like me personally, but there have been a time or two when I had to get before I was gotten rid of.  Once I was being used as a pawn in a disagreement between the manager and the assistant manager.  During one of their arguments my boss asked me how I felt and I told the truth.  It made him mad  and he knew that in order for him to gain control of the department either his assistant or I had to go and he figured it was easier to get rid of me.  When I met with upper management I was granted a transfer.

   I've worked for eleven  different companies over a fifty year period of time, six of which have been regional leaders or national chains.  Seven out of the eleven are no longer in business, two had closed all there operations in my area, and of the remaining  two, one was recently sold.  All  but  one seemed to be healthy and growing when I left.

   I did find myself in a bad situation once.  The company had just purchased another company and I was in charge of converting three of the  stores from the former owner to our way of doing business.  A woman from a company crew sent to help made a financial transaction that was against company policy and when I reported the incident my job was threatened because the woman happened to be the girlfriend of one of the directors.  He did his best to get rid of me but I kept my nose clean and was one of the best at my job.  He did however prevent me from getting promoted twice. 

    I've never had a company seek me how for a potential job but I've never had a problem securing employment when seeking a job.  Of course, it has always been my rule never to leave one place of employment before having another job lined up.  It's kind of hard to negotiate salary  when you don't have one and I'd rather explain why I want to work for a different company than to explain why I'm no longer working for anyone. 

     

     

 

Tuesday, September 09, 2014

My last bully

When I was in the ninth grade we had a new kid come into my class near the end of the school year.  he was a tall, good-looking blonde guy with an athletic muscular build but he didn't play any sports that I knew of.  He took a seat to the right of me and seemed to be rather quiet.  One day I got to school early and when I walked into the classroom this kid asked me if I knew what a Charlie Horse was.  Before I had a chance to respond he grabbed my left arm and pinched me on the forearm by grabbing skin and muscle between two knuckles.  It hurt and my arm swelled up. 
   The next morning when I got to class he laughed and grabbed my arm again but this time I pulled away from him.  He then grabbed me by my shoulders and kneed me in my left thing.  Needless to say it hurt so bad I limped for most of the day. 
   The next day when I got to class he reach he grabbed me by my shoulders again and when I saw him pull his leg back to knee me again I shoved him.  He lost his balance and fell backwards through a couple rows of desks.  He was embarrassed and that made him mad to be embarrassed.  He told me he would be waiting for me behind the gym when I got out of school for the day. 
  I was hoping he had changed his mind or forgotten about it.  I really didn't want to fight him as he was 10 inches taller and probably outweighed me by 40 or 50 pounds and there wasn't an ounce of fat on the kid anywhere.  Unfortunately for me I walked home from school and I had to walk past the gym on my way home.   There was no way around that route home so I was really hoping he wasn't there.  Well not only was he there but he invited lots of people to view my beat down.  I tried to ignore hem but after being taunted I knew he would never leave me alone if I backed down plus I would leave myself open to ridicule from some of the other kids.   As I walked towards him I handed my school books to a friend and took off my shirt so it wouldn't get ripped and/or soiled. 
   He stood there waiting for me with his fists clenched and I walked up to him he said something like how he was going to teach me a lesson.  Before he could utter another word I hit him as hard as I could aiming for that sweet spot where the nose and eye meet.  I believe he was more surprised than hurt and he swung back at me but he only connected with my left shoulder.  It felt like he broke it as this guy was incredibly strong. 
   With guys taller than me I like to take them off their feet as it makes things more even but this dude was just too stout for that move.  All I could do was strike out at him as fast as I could in hopes of delaying the inevitable.    To my great surprise after the third or fourth time I hit him he started to cry and just turned and walked away. 
   No we didn't become friends He did move to another part of the room and never spoke to me or bothered me again.  neither did anyone else. 
  I've since learned that there are much better ways to handle problems rather than physically but in the neighborhood I lived in until I was twelve fighting was a way of life.  It had nothing to do with getting mad and settling differences but it seems it was just for the sport or fun of it.  I learned early on that the one who threw the first blow had the best chance of winning and taking your opponent by surprise up the odds in my favor a lot more.  If you were bigger than me, and if you were my age or older than you  were, I had to find ways to better my odds.  The older I got the bigger difference between me and others became.  Fortunately for me I was athletic and wiry and fast and I was never the type of person who gave up.  I don't care how much I hurt or how big the disadvantage I was going to keep coming at you until you gave up or some one broke the fight up. 
  I remember  a high school friend of mine named Buddy D.  I never knew if his name was really Buddy or if that was just a nickname but we were good friends for the last few years of high school.  Even so I was surprised when he said he was going to the same college I was going too.  In fact, he said, he wanted to be my roommate. 
   Well we hadn't been in school but just a few days when Buddy moved out of my room.   No explanation; he just moved. Well,  a few days later I finished my last class and as I was heading to my room there was some kids playing a pickup game of football.  I was asked to join them.  To my surprise my high school friend was playing on the opposition.  I had been a good runner as I was slim and fast but I could run over a blocker too as I was much stronger than I looked like I should be.  I soon became a favorite ball handler on my new team as I ran for a couple of scores and moved the ball for yardage on a couple of other plays.  On one play I took the ball and was going to run up the middle and Buddy was the tackler.  I was taken by surprise when he threw a roll block on me.  I not only took a face full of grass and dirt but a great deal of laughter from my team mates. 
   A few plays later I again took the ball and ran up the middle and again Buddy was the tackler.  He again threw a roll block but this time I just jumped over him and went on to score the touchdown.  Well, Buddy got mad and stormed off the field.   I never saw the guy again as the next day he put in for a transfer to another college.  I never did find out what made him so angry.  I would rather him to have just walked up to me and slugged me as to end our friendship without a word.  That was the cruelest blow of all. 

Friday, September 05, 2014

Candid Camera stunt was just wrong

    Reminiscent of the show "What would you do" Candid Camera did a stunt involving illegal aliens, one from Mexico and one from England.  Each person would stand on the street and ask passerby's to sign a petition allowing them to stay in the USA.  The Englishman was dressed nicely in a suit was easy spoken and well dressed.  The Mexican was dressed in a corduroy shirt that was unbuttoned, a T-shirt and faded jeans.   He looked like an unemployed laborer. 
   The stunt smelled like a bad political statement rather than a study of human nature.  At least "What would you do" would have the two men switch rolls and have a well dressed Mexican and a worker-type Englishman.  And to be totally fair, they very well could have done the stunt using the same person in both roles and then repeat the performance using ladies.  Then we would have a better idea if there was a racial, ethnic, gender, or cultural bias to peoples reactions. 
  The fact that this stunt was done in Arizona was neither typical of the locals nor fair to them.  Peter Funt should be ashamed for that stunt.  it was just wrong.
  

Thursday, September 04, 2014

Do Tell


  I was the subject in the Thursday, Sept 4, 2014 "Do Tell" forum in the Asheboro courier-Tribune.   It seems I hit a nerve with a reader of my column entitled "How to choose a church".  I doubt seriously if the writer of that comment reads my blog but if he does I just want to say "Thank You" for reading my column.  He said based on my column he would choose any church but mine. 
   I don't have a church.  If he meant he would attend any church but the one I attend then he his
 choosing a church for the wrong reason.  He called my column a judgmental rant and stayed I had an un-Christ-like attitude.  but he failed to point out what was the Christian viewpoint should have been or which statement I made was not biblical.  I would be happy to correct any beliefs I have that are in error. 
   In writing the column I am limited to 600 words so do not have the room to quote scripture for all my points, which are as follows:
   1.  God is in three persons, Father, Son, and Holy Ghost.  Granted there is no scripture that uses all three terms at once but the three terms are used interchangeably throughout the scriptures.  Jesus did state that He and the father were one and God said that Jesus was his son.  No where in the scriptures is any other term used for God other than Father, Son, or Holy Ghost. 
 2.  Jesus Christ is God.  John 3:16  For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son,
    Matthew 3:17  and lo a voice from heaven saying This is my beloved Son. Isaiah   53
3.  The Holy Bible is God's word:  II Timothy 3:16  All scripture is given by inspiration of God
4  Salvation is by grace;  Ephesians 28  For by grace are ye saved  through faith and that not of yourselves; it is a gift of God.
5.  God created the earth and Adam and Eve.  Genesis 1
6  Jesus is the only means of salvation  john 14:6  Jesus saith unto him "I am the way, the truth, and the life.  No man cometh into the Father but by me. 
7.  The  miracles of the scriptures are real  II Timothy 3:16
8.  Israel is Gods chosen people Genesis 15:18, 17:6,7
9 Jesus was born of a virgin Isaiah 7:14 There for the Lord himself shall give you a sign;  Behold a virgin shall conceive and bear a son and shall call his name Immanuel, Matthew 1:23    Behold a virgin shall be with child
10.  Christ shall return, There will be a judgment for all, there are eternal rewards and eternal punishment Revelation Chapter 20, Revelation 2:10, James 1:2, Ii timothy 4:8, I Cor. 9:25, De. 32:22,
II Peter 2:4,
  These are not the only scriptures but these should suffice to establish my article as being not only biblical but Christ like  St John 1:1 stares :In the beginning was the Word and the Word was with God and the Word was God. 
  I firmly believe that there will be people from many different churches and many different denominations saved and enter into heaven.  The point of my article was not that you have to go to my church to be saved but when choosing a church to attend it is best to chose one that base their teachings on God's word.  That is neither judgmental nor a rant and to urge one to follow Christ is certainly not  un-Christ-like. 

Wednesday, September 03, 2014

Cat Tree Bloomed





After snapping their picture on the cat tree, each cat took turns posing for individual shots.  None were prompted.  I thought it so amazing.

Youth Revival

On the 14th, 15th, and 16th One Way Baptist church is having a youth revival.  There will be a different speaker each night.  One night there will be a preacher from Georgia, one night Rev. Steve Rowe, head of the fellowship will be speaking and the third night will be a 14 year old preacher from a church near Charlotte. 
   This will be a great opportunity for the young people to really enjoy a church service and also a great opportunity for the parents to get to know the people at One Way Baptist. 

Shooting at Randleman Mcdonalds

Shooting at McDonalds

 

   Sunday August 31, 2014 between 5 and 6 pm two customers at the McDonalds in Randleman, NC engaged in angry words.  One pulled a weapon and shot the second one.  Word has it he was shot in one of his wrists. 
  I have no other details to report at this time but I do have a word of caution.  Randolph County residents are the fourth most heavily armed citizens in the state with 51% of the citizens own firearms.  Be careful who you have words with or any type of confrontation.