I am a Christian and have no qualms about admitting so and as a Christian I do my best to live a life that follows the examples that Jesus set for us. Christ taught his followers how to solve differences. It really doesn't matter if you are the one at fault or the other person is at fault. If you have something against your brother or your brother has something against you go to him and tell him he is forgiven. Then you can come back and God will listen to your prayer.
If there is a problem in the church go to the person that is doing wrong and speak with them about it. If the situation isn't corrected then take several others with you and if that doesn't work take the matter before the entire church.
When a person makes a slip-up do not talk about them but just love them and encourage them. If someone is making serious errors in judgment on a continual bases then you should follow the second set of steps.
What you don't want to do is to tell others especially others that are not of your church or have a need to know). If the perceived wrong is strictly personal and nota biblical error, just let it go. Why try to hurt other people.
An example of what I'm talking about is this: a pastor was scheduled for surgery and asked a young man who was just starting out to come and help him while he recovered. The young man came and was accompanied by his fiancée and her mother. The pastor did well enough that he was able to conduct the Sunday morning services but did let the young man preach the evening services. After a couple of months the young man asked the pastor about becoming the associate pastor. The pastor said no as the church was small and he didn't need as associate.
For the next couple of months things went on as they had but changed one day when the younger preacher was asked to take over a small church whose pastor had died. Now it seems, the young preacher now mother-in-law is telling people that the pastor did her son-in-law wrong.
I don't know what the perceived offense was but I do know that what she is doing is not the biblical way of handling things. For the life of me I just don't understand how someone who raised her children in church who claims to be a Christian and who sings at fellowship meetings and sits under many different preacher can be a gossip and backbiter and have no clue as to how a Christian is supposed to handle such matters.
Personally I' like to slap her but as a Christian I'll just have to love her and pray for her.
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