If one person in a relationship is doing a task but doing it differently than the other person would have done it, but how the task is done is of no consequence, why does the one feel the need to inform the one doing the task that they are doing it differently?
It seems to me the criticizer is only trying to exhort control over an area of life where control can be gained because in other areas they have no control and no hope to ever have any.
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It might be a problem with self-esteem, as needlessly criticising others can often be a sign of insecurity.
Or maybe the criticiser has far too much self-esteem and it's a case of their way or the highway, regardless of whether something needs to be done in a particular way or not. Or they might not even realise they're doing it, which is probably the best scenario out of the three. The best relationship advice I can offer on that is to just say "But it doesn't really matter how it gets done, does it?" and if they start arguing, tell them exactly how the constant nitpicking is making you feel. Hopefully, they'll have enough regard for you to stop doing it.
Thanks Kate
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